God tells us through his word in Ephesians 6:1-3, that we should honor our parents. Just as He gives us the promise that if we honor our parents we will have long life.
Today children are separating from their parents and vice versa; but what they do not know is that the enemy wants the children to disrespect and not value their parents, so that they are far from God’s blessing.
We know that it is difficult to obey and honor our parents, and many times we let ourselves be carried away by pride, but we must take into account that honor is the key that opens and closes the door to the blessings that God has for us.
In the Bible the word “Honor” appears 144 times, while “Dishonor” only appears 14 times; this means that God makes us understand the importance of honoring others, but especially our parents.
Honoring our parents is a way of thanking them for what they do for us every day and also to show the love and appreciation that we have for them.
How do I honor my father?
1. Value him: We honor our father when we thank him for what he has done for us and by loving him; since his word tells us that we should love our main neighbor who are our parents.
2. Accept his authority: “Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing in the Lord”; Colossians 3:20 and in Proverbs 3:11-12 “My son, do not despise the discipline of the Lord, nor take offense at his reproofs. For the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father corrects his beloved son”.
3. Treat him with respect: We must be careful what we say to our parents, and how we say it. It’s true that it’s not easy to control our treatment of dad, but we should keep in mind what his word says in “The eye that mocks his father and the least of his cherished, the ravens of the glen shall carry him away, and the eagle’s children shall devour him”; Proverbs 30:17.
4. Care for him: When our parents grow old, they need our help. This is how we honor our parents, giving them what they need and keeping an eye on them; we can see this in 1 Timothy 5:4-8.
5. Take an interest in their life: Show them that you care, ask them if they have something planned, and support them.
6. Make it part of your life: If you are going to make a decision, tell them, so that you can see their opinion about it.
7. Pray for them: Ask God the Father to take care of them, to give them long life, and if you don’t like his attitude towards you, ask him to transform it; and in spite of his attitude never curse him, on the contrary bless him. “And Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this thing of the fig tree, but also if ye say unto this mountain, Get thee up, and cast thyself into the sea; it shall be done. And whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive”; Matthew 21:21-22.
Wrong actions that we believe honor our parents
– Children who honor their parents let them control their marriage: Certainly, the Bible says: “Therefore shall a man leave his parents, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh”; Genesis 2:24. Of course, they should take advantage of their father’s or in-laws’ counsel, as we can see at Proverbs 23:22: “Hearken unto thy father, he that begat thee; and do not despise her”; yet every marriage can decide when the family can intervene.
“Therefore they are no longer two, but one flesh; therefore what God has joined together, let not man put asunder”; Matthew 19:6.
– Parents have the ultimate authority: God gave them authority over the family, but the authority that God gave to any human being is limited, since the ultimate authority is held by God; Acts 5:27-29 shows us this. In the same way, children must obey their parents.
– Children who want to honor their parents must follow their own religion: The Bible gives us the answer in 1 John 4:1, it also mentions several servants of Him who did not follow their parents’ religion, like Abraham, Ruth and the apostle Paul (Joshua 24:2; Ruth 1:15-16; Galatians 1:14-16)
– In order to honor the parents, one should not participate in traditional rites of ancestor worship: “Jesus answered and said to him, ‘Get thee behind me, Satan, for it is written, ‘Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and Him only shalt thou serve'”; Luke 4:8, God commands us to worship Him alone.