Christian marriage is very different from secular marriage, which is why it is valid to ask: Do you know what a husband and wife should be like in a Christian marriage?
Christian marriage tends to be related to new statutes that must be fulfilled before God to bring about a marriage blessed by Him. That is why we will give you some points on what Christian marriage should be like.
What should the wife look like in marriage?
The Word of God says, “Wives should be subject to their own husbands, as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church, which is his body, and he is its Savior. Therefore, as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything”.
From this passage we conclude that a woman must be submissive and obedient to her husband. This does not mean, by any means, that the wife should be a slave or a zero on the left that does not count for anything. Nor does it mean that the husband should be a dictator.
In fact, the Bible itself states that man and woman are equal before God (Galatians 3:28). This submission is understood rather in the sense that a wife must respect her husband’s authority as head of the family. Other passages in the Bible insist that a wife must respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33) and be subject to him (Colossians 3:18).
Characteristics of a Christian wife
Peter urges the woman to be subject to her husband, to be chaste and respectful, and not to have an outward appearance with flamboyant hairstyles, gold trimmings, or luxurious clothing, but a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:1-4). So important is the woman that from the beginning God saw that it was not good for man to be alone, so he made her a suitable helper.
Even the wise Solomon recognizes the vital importance of having a good wife in three absolutely priceless passages. The first passage reads: “A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears it down with her hands”; (Proverbs 14:1). The second says: “A virtuous woman, who will find her? For her value far exceeds that of precious stones. Her husband’s heart trusts her, and he will not lack profit”; (Proverbs 31:10) And the third warns: “Grace is deceitful and beauty is vain; the woman that fears Jehovah, she shall be praised”; (Proverbs 31:30).
But is God a male chauvinist? No. How should you be a husband in a marriage?
What should the husband be like in the marriage?
God places much greater obligations on the husband than on the wife. A man is commanded to love his wife and not to be rough with her (Colossians 3:19), to treat her as a frail vessel; that is, with delicacy (1 Peter 3:7).
Likewise, he is to love his wife as his own body (Ephesians 5:28). He should leave his father and mother to be joined to his wife and form one flesh with her (Ephesians 5:31), loving the woman as himself (Ephesians 5:33).
And even stronger: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her”; (Ephesians 5:25). Notice what it says: “Love your wives as Christ loved the church”. What does this mean? That a husband should love his wife to the point of giving his life for her; if necessary, for that is what Christ did for us.
A woman is not obliged to die for her husband. Instead, the man does.
What should sexual relations be like in a Christian marriage?
What about sex? The apostle Paul is clear on this point: “Concerning the question you have asked me in writing, I say, it would be good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of fornication let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. The husband must do his duty to his wife, and so must the wife do her duty to her husband. The woman has no dominion over her own body, but the husband; neither has the husband dominion over his own body, but the woman. Do not refuse one another except for a time of mutual consent, that you may quietly occupy yourselves with prayer. Then come together again in one, so that you will not be tempted by Satan because of your incontinence”; (Corinthians 7:1-5).
Thus, to avoid fornication (sex outside of marriage), Paul advises the man and woman to marry; to have relations continually to avoid temptation and not to deny sex to each other.